Dealing With Bad Surprises

Not to belittle the recent tragic events in Japan with an obvious metaphor, but you can bet something is coming toward you, still unseen, that will shake whatever structures you have established in your psyche and your world -- your priorities, projects, and plans. It will be input that must be incorporated into the totality of your life and work. It will cause you to have to reshuffle many of the meaningful components of your day-to-day experience, as well as triggering realizations of meaningfulness about which you were previously unaware. 

You will have to recalibrate your significances and form a new gestalt. You'll need to get your new act together.

Your take on this change can range from exhilaration to devastation. But no matter what emotion you have along that spectrum, there are two major ingredients for an optimal response: (1) actively focused engagement, and (2) having a clear deck. 

This is common knowledge and practice for good sailors. When I acquired my first boat, a veteran skipper told me something very useful. He said, "If someone on your boat is about to hurl, give them the helm!" Even better for equilibrium than just a visual focus on the horizon is to actually take command of the vessel. The driver in a car never gets carsick. Surprise will rock the boat, so as soon as you can, grab the wheel.

A second factor, however, is equally critical for stability -- no residue. If you've ever been on a sailboat in an unexpected squall, you'll know that "ship shape" is not an idle phrase. One loose, unnecessary, or out-of-place piece of gear can ruin your day, if not your boat. Martial artists train to clear their mind. If you are jumped by four people in a dark alley, you don't want a thousand unprocessed e-mails lurking in your psyche.

When I'm not doing anything else, I'm cleaning up my backlog to zero -- e-mails, paper, notes, thoughts -- all the collected and self-generated inputs that demand attention. There's a surprise coming toward me, too.